My present role
With some sadness I have decided that the time for my offering live-in soul midwifery to individuals has passed. What calls me now is to be available:
- to provide tailored support to people walking towards death – learn more at www.careofthesoul.co.nz
- to mentor those who are learning the role of soul midwife or death doula
- to speak with groups about what it means to accompany people who are dying.
My Understanding of Soul Midwifery
Birth and death may seem like opposites, but in truth they are very similar occasions, points on a continuum, an in-coming and an out-going, or phases in an eternal cycle of newness and decay.
As we live our human lives we are always being born and dying. When the soul, the divine spark, takes physical form it slowly forgets and dies to its own essential lightness and beauty, in order to live in the material world. In parallel it births the ego-self, the human tool for living in matter. At best the journey of later life is one of then dying to the ego-self and birthing the real, eternal self. If this has not happened along the way of life, with the beckoning of death through age or illness there comes an opportunity for this dying of ego and birthing of the consciousness that is the true self.
Not everyone experiences death in this way, it is true. Modern life is not always conducive to the unfolding of natural processes, and so the old art of Soul Midwifery is being revived, to facilitate the smooth passage of dying.
The role of the Soul Midwife is to assist the dying person to birth this connection with his deepest self, both before and after death. She is present to all the emotions that may arise in the face of death; the fear, anger, disappointment and regret, as well as the relief and joy. She encourages the resolution of the individual’s unfinished business. She creates and holds a sacred space in which the dying person may make his journey. If, following his leave-taking, he gets confused or held back, she will gently encourage him to move towards the light of his essential being and be born into the vast expansiveness we call death.
As Soul Midwives our most essential and ongoing task is to midwife our own soul, to travel our own dark and painful inner-land in order to expose ever more fully our own joyful and fearless self. Our presence, then, is our most vital tool.
As we accompany the dying, being with whatever arises, blessed by the intimacy and rich learning of our journeying together, we come to know the deep privilege of this work.
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